Nothing In Common?
Is it possible to have so little in common with someone, to the point of combustion, yet still love them and want to be with them?
That's the sort of predicament I find myself in these days. My relationship with 'The Wife' has always been a tempestuous one (hell, it's where a lot of the so-called heat came from initially) but it seems that in recent months things have started to decline rapidly. We seem to be unable to find anything that we want to do together, or that we even enjoy doing together. We're generally much happier if we find our own thing to do and find our own corners of the house and keep to ourselves. We're constantly rubbing each other the wrong way and driving each other crazy and we're reaching the end of our ropes.
As depressing and unpleasant as I'm sure I just made that sound, I have no interest in divorcing her and she doesn't want to divorce me, either. Believe me, we've discussed it. And it's not a situation where we're statying together just for the kids because we genuinely don't want to split, which makes less sense typing it than it does thinking about it. It's something that I've never been able to wrap my head around properly.
I know that if I managed to build a more active social life outside the home it would release some of the pressures that we put ourselves under. She has friends that she can go out with but in the last couple of years most of the poeple I hung out with sort of left town to seek out their fortunes west of nowhere (which is where I am stuck and remain for the forseeable future). I'm trying to build some relationships at work but it takes time and I'm also older than a lot of the poeple there so hanging out socially after work sometimes comes off as a little awkward. I'm pretty sure more than one of the girls at work were convinced at one point or another that I was making the moves on them in a less-than-platonic manner, which I can understand seeing as how I'm an older guy showing interest in a younger woman.
The guys at work are pretty decent, but we're not exactly at the socializing outside of work stage. I dunno, as much as I enjoy the company of men I still find that I get along better with women and tend to gravitate towards them socially.
I'm probably just digging myself a big ol' hole, and it's not to keep my mind from wandering, as Mr. McCartney would say.
There's been talk of hitting a movie with a couple of the girls from work so we'll see how that pans out first, I guess.
Goodnight and good luck.
That's the sort of predicament I find myself in these days. My relationship with 'The Wife' has always been a tempestuous one (hell, it's where a lot of the so-called heat came from initially) but it seems that in recent months things have started to decline rapidly. We seem to be unable to find anything that we want to do together, or that we even enjoy doing together. We're generally much happier if we find our own thing to do and find our own corners of the house and keep to ourselves. We're constantly rubbing each other the wrong way and driving each other crazy and we're reaching the end of our ropes.
As depressing and unpleasant as I'm sure I just made that sound, I have no interest in divorcing her and she doesn't want to divorce me, either. Believe me, we've discussed it. And it's not a situation where we're statying together just for the kids because we genuinely don't want to split, which makes less sense typing it than it does thinking about it. It's something that I've never been able to wrap my head around properly.
I know that if I managed to build a more active social life outside the home it would release some of the pressures that we put ourselves under. She has friends that she can go out with but in the last couple of years most of the poeple I hung out with sort of left town to seek out their fortunes west of nowhere (which is where I am stuck and remain for the forseeable future). I'm trying to build some relationships at work but it takes time and I'm also older than a lot of the poeple there so hanging out socially after work sometimes comes off as a little awkward. I'm pretty sure more than one of the girls at work were convinced at one point or another that I was making the moves on them in a less-than-platonic manner, which I can understand seeing as how I'm an older guy showing interest in a younger woman.
The guys at work are pretty decent, but we're not exactly at the socializing outside of work stage. I dunno, as much as I enjoy the company of men I still find that I get along better with women and tend to gravitate towards them socially.
I'm probably just digging myself a big ol' hole, and it's not to keep my mind from wandering, as Mr. McCartney would say.
There's been talk of hitting a movie with a couple of the girls from work so we'll see how that pans out first, I guess.
Goodnight and good luck.
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